July was a pretty successful month, I was able to complete all of my resolutions and celebrate my 22nd birthday. But the highlight of July was celebrating my mom’s one year breast cancer survivor anniversary.
On July 19th, 2012, my mother had her lumpectomy operation, followed by 44 radiation sessions and a hysterectomy months later.My mother and I have always been close, but ever since her diagnosis, we have become inseparable. My friends know that I talk about my mother constantly and I hope they never get tired of it because they all know she means so much to me, she is my best friend, my everything.
I did not want her to feel alone in this battle so I made sure to keep her uplifted and happy. We registered a team of 20 for the Susan G. Komen Race for a Cure in Central Park, I surprised her with an all pink benefit dinner to help pay her medical bills- anything you can think of, I’ve done it for her. It was a difficult year for the both of us, but we pulled through together.
I was surprised (but excited) that my mom actually wanted to celebrate her one year anniversary. Throughout the year (and even now) she has received anonymous gifts at our home, some were books of survivors, fairy warrior princesses, and survivor shirts. She was happy about them at first, but after awhile she broke down and said, “the gifts are thoughtful and I’m very appreciative of the support and the gifts but they’re a reminder of everything that I’ve been going through and it’s all so overwhelming.”
Although her anniversary is a reminder in itself, we decided to surprise her with several things to have her look at the positive aspect of it (her support system!). We drove to the city to have lunch in a hot pink escalade/limo. I surprised her with a hot pink ribbon shaped cake and a T-shirt specifically designed for her celebration, which she very much enjoyed. As we drove around the city, my mother smiled and proudly showed strangers her shirt as they took pictures of us all in the limo.
The celebration continued at Seaside Heights in the evening. My mother and I wanted to encounter Sandy’s aftermath. Nostalgia hit us strong as we walked along the boardwalk and enjoyed freshly squeezed lemonade and fried Oreos. Sandy did a great deal of damage to Seaside and probably will never look as I remembered it when I celebrated my previous birthdays there. But I do hope next summer Seaside is up and running because I’m a huge fan of the shore- not because of a show that was broadcasted on MTV, but because I’ve made great memories with the people I love.
Needless to say, I was able to accomplish two things from my July list and make my mother happy. I hope my mother would want to celebrate her survival every year, as I feel it will help her conquer future obstacles that may come our way. I love my mother very much and will always be grateful for everything she has done for me, we share a bond that not many mother and daughters share with each other today. Happy August!